I’ve written this paragraph over and over again, trying my best to stay transparent and still protect the jewel that is Christopher Avery Kincaid. Last week, we made the decision to pull our ten-year-old out of school again. For those who weren’t with us during the twins’ pregnancy, he spent the 2010-2011 school year at home and returned last year. He was quite successful, and even tested into the gifted & talented program this fall. He was assigned the same teachers that his older brother loved so dearly just a few years ago, and we thought we’d passed the issues that arose so long ago. But alas, they’ve reared their ugly heads again. This time, we’re being proactive. Chris & I met with the boys’ mom for a lengthy discussion this past weekend, and we’ve all landed on the same page.
All of the people who love and support him agree that Avery needs a different kind of environment, although we’re not quite sure what that looks like. Who knows – maybe homeschooling is a permanent solution? I’m certainly warming up to the idea of keeping the babies at home when their time comes. For now, we’ll take it year by year with Avery. We will remind ourselves that he needs affection and attention in a way no other child of ours does. We will challenge him when he grows bored and give him freedom when he needs an outlet. We will meet his needs and protect his heart to the best of our ability, as he grows at his own pace. We will speak life into this boy. Over and over. On a daily basis. As long as it takes.