As parents, we learn very quickly that raising kids isn’t exactly symbiotic work. It’s our job to provide children with a safe, nurturing environment for them to learn about life and all that it has to offer. It’s their job to take advantage of that environment as much as possible, so that they might enter adulthood with confidence and preparedness. As spouses, we learn very quickly that nothing is ever 50/50. We’re reminded over and over that we should not keep score, and then we do it anyway. As employees, we learn very quickly that nothing is ever fair. We’re reminded over and over to keep a positive attitude as we crank out the productivity, and we give coworkers the side eye when they don’t pull their own weight.
Life is full of situations where people take from us far more than they give, but there’s something in us that pouts and screams unfair when it happens. We want the give and we want the take, but we want it served squarely down the middle. Too bad. Life is absolutely about give and take, but life is not about fair. After all, Jesus set the bar pretty clearly. We were broken from the start, and He made us whole on the cross. He did some serious giving, y’all, and all we have to do is take that Gift. But it doesn’t stop there; He continues to give freely every time we live out of our nature and screw up with something like… pouting about the give and the take of this world.
What would it look like if we just swallowed this as truth and went about our business? What if we woke up every morning and tripped over the shoes in the hall and whispered a blessing over our children, instead of a curse? What if we lay in bed at night and reflected on the day’s wins within our marriage, refusing to keep score with our spouse? What if we went to work every day and smiled at the coworker showed up late again without getting in trouble?
There is freedom to be found in losing all sense of entitlement and fairness and whose turn it is. There is freedom to be found in living for an audience of One. There is freedom to be found in grasping the gravity of the gifts we’ve been given. There is so much freedom to be found. So find it. Be free.